how to find your style + the confidence to wear it

  • Published: 11 July 2019
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    In this chatty video, I answer one of my most asked questions: how do I find my style and the confidence to wear what I want? I break it down into steps, from assessing what clothes you already wear the most in your wardrobe, to finding aesthetic inspiration, building a moodboard, and tips for going shopping and styling outfits.

    ON ME
    yellow top: princess polly (
    shorts: abrand (
    heart necklace: vanessa mooney (similar:
    thin choker: mejuri (
    heart choker: melody ehsani (similar:

    i also have an inspo account @bestdressedinspo :)

    F A Q
    what’s your name? ashley
    what’s your instagram? @best.dressed
    how old are you? 21 (born in 1998)
    how tall are you? 5'5"
    what’s your ethnicity? half british and half burmese
    what equipment do you use to film?
    ➭ main camera: panasonic lumix gh5s (
    ➭ 12-35mm lens (
    ➭ mic: rode videomic pro+ (
    ➭ vlog camera: canon powershot g7x mark ii
    ➭ canon m50 (
    ➭ editing: final cut pro

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Comments • 7 410

  • Kiki
    Kiki  5 hours back

    omg this was actually so helpful!!

    • Yalimar Negroni
      Yalimar Negroni  10 hours back

      It makes me so sad and mad at myself that I used to be really fashionable and out there at the beginning of college. But then I switched colleges and then I saw everyone dressing so sporty and casual and I kinda switched to that even tho it’s not really MY style and now I’m stuck with a closet of things I don’t really love 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

      • Og Gb
        Og Gb  17 hours back

        Ugh it’s so hard to find my style. I like full on glam, boho, french chic, and tomboy styles all at the same time 🤨

        • Rauha Ibrahim
          Rauha Ibrahim  19 hours back

          8:32 ashley looks like a devastated puppy I-

          • Rachel Bazilian
            Rachel Bazilian  21 hours back

            i have so many different types of clothing and honestly i have a very simple style of jeans, shorts, all high waisted, and tshirts, tank tops or crop tops. i always tuck my shirts somehow, usually a french tuck, thank you Tan France. i want to expand to heels rather than just sneakers or flip flops or little boots, but i also want to expand to more boots and not just the ones i have. i need more bags and belts and jewelry but i also am not a huge fan of it. i want to also start wearing more makeup because i love the way it looks haha i def hope i get more understanding of my style lol

            • Rahaf 906
              Rahaf 906  22 hours back

              my style is girly and classic 💜

              • tae bae
                tae bae  1 days back

                THANK YOU FOR THIS!

                whenever i go out my mom says “why you getting all dressed up?” or “who are you trying to impress?”

                like? because i WANNA and MYSELF

                • Lola Baria
                  Lola Baria  1 days back

                  Ok but what if i'm ugly and fat ?

                  • Lucia Contreras
                    Lucia Contreras  1 days back

                    and what about i hate all my clothes lmao

                    • Chelsea Villamor
                      Chelsea Villamor  1 days back


                      • Т еодора
                        Т еодора  2 days back

                        You’re literally adorable

                        • Laundry Basket
                          Laundry Basket  2 days back

                          So my fashion is jeans and a hoodie every single day? Nice.

                          • Ana Wilson
                            Ana Wilson  2 days back

                            Watching the whole video being excited getting to 7:28 being like but... *I'm 12* .....

                            • Your guilty Conscience

                              My style is literally anything that has absolutely no shape and can have 500 stains but still look clean the next day.

                              • B M
                                B M  3 days back

                                If I gained a little weight I would be much happier in my body, my skinny-ish arms make it weird wearing tank tops and t shirts it makes my arms feel like slendermen arms

                                • Quills Light
                                  Quills Light  3 days back

                                  sOO. I have a style that I love, but when shopping and I pick something up that’s different than what I actually wear; hoodies and tights.

                                  My mom finds it strange, and thinks I won’t ever wear um, I’m stuck in hoodies?

                                  • Curly hair don’t care

                                    I’d say my style is sweet, girly, confident and eye catching.

                                    • Sarah-maude Gonthier
                                      Sarah-maude Gonthier  3 days back

                                      if i love only t-shirt too big and skinny jeans tear off and big polar ...

                                      • Mai Ka Vang
                                        Mai Ka Vang  3 days back

                                        I LOVEEE LOVE your advice videos so much!!!! Listening to you talk and just your personality, makes me feel like we are somehow friends or something! You're incredibly personable and the epitome of wholesomeness for being so open and vulnerable but also very understanding and well-informed.

                                        • Irene
                                          Irene  3 days back

                                          6:27 i wear black girly twirly dress so what am i

                                          • sopejin
                                            sopejin  3 days back

                                            There is this girl in my school that has the best style and I admire her style so much. Then I hear people talking about her and how ugly her outfits are. That really brought my confidence down and so I feel like I can’t express my style.

                                            • Camila Álvarez
                                              Camila Álvarez  3 days back

                                              Obssesed with your videos!!❤️

                                              • Frida Maj
                                                Frida Maj  4 days back

                                                I'm so impressed by the quality of this video! Ashley your so great!

                                                • ashwini tayade
                                                  ashwini tayade  4 days back

                                                  These tips work
                                                  I have been trying them since I figured them out by myself
                                                  And they helped figure out my styles and now my warbode is full of things I wear everything and regret about nothing

                                                  • Riinah !! :u
                                                    Riinah !! :u  4 days back

                                                    Months? Years? SCHOOL STARTS ON MONDAY AHHASJAJXHSB

                                                    • Eartha Forester
                                                      Eartha Forester  4 days back

                                                      This video is very positive, encouraging, and practical. Honestly great advice for anyone. Thank you.

                                                      • MT
                                                        MT  4 days back

                                                        I've felt so self conscious for so long because I don't feel confident dressing the way I want to, and I'm always comparing myself to what my friends wear even if it isn't personally my style. Comments like at 11:47 get to me even though they shouldn't mean much because I'm still trying to find my confidence. So i really appreciate the advice in this video <3. I'm going to try harder to embrace my fashion sense in the future.

                                                        • i still wanna be winston but i stan billie now

                                                          My style is: 80’s retro, but sometimes super girly/ floral flowy things

                                                          Edited cause spelling

                                                          • Agus Tjia
                                                            Agus Tjia  5 days back

                                                            Well for me i already have a sence of fashion but its just when i try to do it i will look terrible and girl i'm also a punterest girl

                                                            • TheMayniyak
                                                              TheMayniyak  5 days back

                                                              I needed this video so bad! I’ve been trying to find my style and it’s taken so long, it’s still in the process and you had so many great tips thank you! Also I’m one of those weird people too that spend like 3hrs shopping trying on clothes hahah

                                                              • Maddie Ahn
                                                                Maddie Ahn  5 days back

                                                                imagine being too fat to wear the things u think look cute... totally can't relate to that

                                                                • madi williams
                                                                  madi williams  5 days back

                                                                  I just found your channel a few days ago, first being obsessed with your room makeovers and now obsessed with your style! I'm currently in the process of updating my wardrobe, and watching you makes me 10x more excited to do so! Thank you for sharing <3

                                                                  • Amaya Yuno
                                                                    Amaya Yuno  6 days back

                                                                    Can you please make a tutorial for this makeup look? It looks just soo gentle and unique

                                                                    • aida elyna
                                                                      aida elyna  6 days back

                                                                      I missed you, so I'm binge watching your videos 💓💕💕💕💕

                                                                      • Joen Jungkook
                                                                        Joen Jungkook  6 days back

                                                                        How do you know what style fits your body type ??

                                                                        • Connie Trevino
                                                                          Connie Trevino  6 days back

                                                                          When are you gonna start your own clothing line gurl

                                                                          • Jacoba Riege
                                                                            Jacoba Riege  6 days back

                                                                            Gurl hating on my Pinterest and I feel attacked

                                                                            • andrea r
                                                                              andrea r  6 days back

                                                                              i LOVE U

                                                                              • Chun uwu
                                                                                Chun uwu  6 days back

                                                                                when I was in the beginning of middle school I always wore the same clothes everybody was wearing just because i was afraid to stand out. Now that it's been a few years i'm finally getting the courage to wear what i want and the people I've been so afraid of to judge me in the beginning (in germany middle and highschool is just one school we're visiting for 6 years) are actually complimenting me or just saying "yeah thats just how she looks she likes to dress up, nothing special" and that honestly makes me so happy (and when people do judge me sometimes I actually find myself caring less and less wow)

                                                                                • Ирина Новикова

                                                                                  9:54 omg same it really helps a lot!!

                                                                                  • Hallie Rollings
                                                                                    Hallie Rollings  7 days back

                                                                                    3:13 is the moment I subscribed teheh

                                                                                    • Moira Lightwood
                                                                                      Moira Lightwood  7 days back

                                                                                      The first time I wore a hoodie and messy bun to school, my friends lost their shit 🤣
                                                                                      I like actually dressing up and while I'm still insecure and dont do it to the extent I would want to, I realize I do tend to wear "fashionable" outfits and put effort into them.

                                                                                      • Megan J
                                                                                        Megan J  7 days back

                                                                                        I have the exact same style as you! I definitely take inspo from so many different people/eras. Some days I want to be cute and feminine other days I want to wear all black and oversized. I just need the money for it...and more patience in the thrift store!

                                                                                        • Mitanshi Makhija
                                                                                          Mitanshi Makhija  7 days back

                                                                                          your personality and videos are more therapeutic than my sessions with my therapist. i genuinely hope you never stop making videos.

                                                                                          • Juliette Benton
                                                                                            Juliette Benton  7 days back

                                                                                            The app ‘mode relief’ is really great as well, let’s you put outfits together on your phone

                                                                                            • Angi Dudas
                                                                                              Angi Dudas  7 days back

                                                                                              My daughter considers you an fashionable inspiration.

                                                                                              • Cinthya Mucho
                                                                                                Cinthya Mucho  1 weeks back

                                                                                                Mientras veo el vídeo voy practicando inglés. 😅😊

                                                                                                • Sydney Haines
                                                                                                  Sydney Haines  1 weeks back

                                                                                                  I love her hair like this her hair always looks good tho